67 . The Arousal Show

Ever struggled with getting excited to have sex? Ever had thoughts that you and your partner just don’t have the same sex drive?  This episode is for you, Erika and Dr. Lauren Fogel tackle all things desire, desire discrepancies, low desire, you name it!   

You can find Dr. Fogel on Instagram: 

@drlaurenfogel  

She sees clients in Minneapolis, Minnesota, google her if you would like to become a client! 

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66. Day in the Life of a Sex Therapist 

Have you ever wondered what a sex therapist does? Today you get the answers!  Erika talks about what a typical day in her practice is like and what the typical problems clients come to her with.  Sex therapy is a wonderful outlet to bring out of the darkness into the light some of the issues you may have around sex. Also it can be really effective, check out this episode to find out more. 

Erika’s group practice website: 

Mentalandsexualhealth.com 

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65. Romance, Sex, Betrayal, and Your Relationships with Sarah Schewitz

Dr. Sarah Schewitz psychologist specialist in online couples and individual therapy in the area of love and relationships. If you want to know more about how the different types of love play out during the course of a relationship this episode is for you!  Erika and Dr. Schewitz talk about how betrayal and sex sometimes impact relationships in unexpected ways, tune in for more!! 

Find Dr. Sarah Schewitz here: 

https://coupleslearn.com/ 

The book she mentioned: 

https://www.amazon.com/Out-Doghouse-Step-Step-Relationship-Saving/dp/0757319211 

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64. How to Talk to Your Doctor About Medications and Sex 

Stacy Greeter, MD gives some wonderful information about how to ask questions about the medications your doctor is suggesting.  Erika and Dr. Greeter also talk about how to advocate for yourself and the power you have in creating health. If you are in the SW Florida area you can become a patient of Dr. Greeter’s.  Check out her website below. 

Find Dr. Greeter here: 

www.stacygreeter.com 

941-413-0834 

  

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Toy Review Feature! DocJohnson OptiMALE Recargeable Vibrating C-Ring

Erika’s Note: this was a sponsored review of the DocJohnson’s OptiMALE Rechargeable Vibrating C-Ring

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Thank you, HUSTLER Hollywood, for carrying this toy! Initial reactions to unboxing the DocJohnson OptiMALE Rechargeable Vibrating C-Ring (Silicone) is the ease in which it came out of the box.  The box was easy to open and had very clear instructions for use and CLEANING!  Yes!!  It is so important to know how to clean a toy a person has invested in, and the box had it clearly marked. 

The C-Ring is smooth to the touch, comes with a long cable for charging, and a travel bag.  Again, all easy to open and put to use quickly.  When I turned on the C-Ring it buzzed immediately for a responsive experience of the on button.  The on button is located on front part of the bullet and was easy to find.  The button lights up with tempo of the vibration which also makes it easy to find visually. It did take a little finesse to get the charging cable plugged into the top of the tip of the C-Ring.  Once I figured out how to insert it I was able to insert the cable easily the second time.

The vibration just from initial impression from unboxing was firm and went through the entire toy down to the stimulation nubs that are on the bottom of the ring itself. The different vibration setting appears to be easy to access as well.

Now after use by myself and with a partner here are my takeaways.  First, with a partner the toy’s ring is firm and easy to put on with the use of lubricant (use a toy safe lube folks).  The ring is not overly stretchy but is pliable.  My partner reported the firm feel and softness of the silicone material.  The bullet of the C-Ring fit nicely on my vulva without much manipulation from myself or my partner.  It stayed put even with much movement and shifting of bodies. 

My takeaways from single use without a partner include some of the same takeaways from my experience with a partner.  Each vibration setting is easily accessible to change to your preferred type of pattern.  The first three settings are low, medium, and high, then the pattern of the vibration changes after the first three.  The shape of the bullet is slim and gets thicker in the center with a bit of a point at the tip.  At the very top of the tip is where the covered charging port is. 

The vibration of each setting is fairly good.  I often find myself wanting stronger vibration from any C-Ring I have used.  The vibration was sufficient and was sure-fire and consistent throughout the entire use either partner or single play.

I am glad that HUSTLER Hollywood is offering this toy as it is a great toy for couples who have never used a C-Ring before.  The comfort, ease of use, clean-ability, and charge-ability make it a great option for those searching to increase pleasure in the bedroom. 

As a sex therapist I am often encouraging the couples I work with to include novelty and newness into their sex lives and this is a great entry to using a toy together, especially if you have never done so.  I am also pleased to see HUSTLER Hollywood offering a wonderful silicone body safe toy, that has care instructions that are easy to understand and implement.  This is a reasonable cost for a toy that will become part of your regular rotation either by yourself or with a partner.

My shopping experience on HUSTLER’s website was easy and quick, and the packaging that came in the mail was discreet.

My overall take is positive of the toy and am encouraged to have a useable couple’s toy that can switch easily for single play. 

I have included an unboxing video on my Patreon.

If you are interested in this product click the button below.

63. The Myth of Sex Addiction

Erika talks with David Ley, PhD author of The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. David goes into depth about how our beliefs and shame around sex have dictated our views about sex and addiction.  Erika and David also explore how gaining insight around our sexual values can impact shame around sex generally.  This show is full of a lot of great information be ready folks!

How to find David: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/experts/david-j-ley-phd 

 

PESI trainings: 

https://catalog.pesi.com/speaker/david-ley-466648 

  

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62. Vasectomy

Is permanent birth control for you?  Do you know what a vasectomy is? In this episode Erika talks all about what a vasectomy is and the benefits of this type of birth control.  Many men also talk about their concerns about sexual performance after a vasectomy, Erika addresses those concerns as well!   

Resources: 

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/vasectomy/how-do-i-get-vasectomy 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/vasectomy/about/pac-20384580 

   

 

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61. Women Must Have the Right to Choose

First thing’s first this episode I am going to go into detail about women’s right to choose, that means abortion.  This episode is not political, this episode is personal to me and the clients I serve.  Just a heads up some folks are not wanting more information about abortion.  That’s okay I’ll see ya next week. 

For those of you sticking around let’s talk Patreon first!  Thanks to Jack Hawley for becoming a supporter of the podcast!  I am so grateful to all of you who are finding value in this show and keep showing up to help support it’s making.  If you are interested in supporting the show head over to www.patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

Also if you are listening on apple podcasts I would love if you would give a 5 star review! If you do I’ll feature it on the show and Instagram.  Their algorithm is funky so for us to reach more people we need them 5 stars! 

Resources: 

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion 

http://www.1in3campaign.org/resources/abortion-information-resources 

https://www.all-options.org/ 

https://exhaleprovoice.org/ 

   

 

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60. How to Clean Your Sex Toys 

Have you ever wondered how often to clean your sex toys? What about how to clean them, and with what?? It is an expansive landscape to figure out how to clean the items we use during sex. In this episode Erika tells you how to clean different types of toys. She also references a couple of articles that can be helpful determine what type of cleaners to consider. 

Links:

https://www.self.com/story/how-to-clean-your-sex-toys-so-you-can-use-them-safely 

Toy cleaning article:

https://www.lovense.com/sex-tips/sex-toy-cleaner

   

 

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59. Porn and Relationships

Porn is often a reason couples of various configurations come to see a sex therapist.  There is quick judgement as to why the person is using porn with many intense feelings that go with the judgement.  This episode is an instruction manual to start the conversation about pornography and how our values around sex can be so varied.  Also, in this episode Erika gave a shout out to all newest Patreon subscribers! If you would like in on all the content check it out here:  https://www.patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

   

 

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