54. All Things Babies and Sex

Felt like you have struggles with getting intimate again after baby?  Have fertility issues messed with your sex life?  This episode is for you, Erika talks with return guest Ariel Shumaker about how becoming parents impacts your sex life from making them to post-partum.   

We were chatting afterwards and Ariel had a lubricant suggestion for those on the path to parenthood:  It’s called Pre-Seed made by First Response  

http://www.firstresponse.com/en/Products/Lubricants/Fertility-Friendly-Lubricant 

  

Facebook page 

Ariel Shumaker therapy and photography 

@arielshumakerphoto insta 

 

 

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53. Boundaries and Sex with Shane Birkel

Have you ever struggled to create boundaries within your relationship?  What about with sex?  Erika and her guest Shane Birkel couples therapist, host of the podcast the Couples Therapist Couch talk about how to create boundaries. 

How to find Shane his practice is based in New Hampshire: 

https://couplestherapistcouch.com/  

www.seacoastspark.com   

feedback wheel: 

https://www.facebook.com/TerryRealRLI/photos/a.162060043821206/2060336067326918/?type=1&theater 

 

 

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52. Sex & Hygiene

Learning to take care of your body before and after sex is a must do.  Most of us did not get comprehensive sex education.  Part of growing up and developing is learning how to take care of this body we are in.  Erika talks about how to clean but also when to clean.  She offers up tips you may not have considered but are a must add to your sexual routine by yourself or with partners. 

 

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51. Our Sexual Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Ever wondered if your fantasies were like other people?  Have you ever thought you were the only one with a specific sexual interest?  Dr. Justin Lehmiller, research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of the blog Sex and Psychology as well as the book Tell Me What You Want, tells us all about his research on sexual fantasy.   

How to find Dr. Justin Lehmiller: 

https://www.lehmiller.com/ 

 

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50. Is There a Right Time to Start Having Sex? 

Episode 50 WHAT??!!  Shout outs to the audience in this episode for the first year of Sex Talk with Erika Miley! 

First date? Second date? Third date? Wait till marriage?  When is the right time to have sex with someone when you are building a relationship? Erika talks about what some of the statistics are saying about when we have that first sexual encounter. 

Reference: 

https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/ 

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49. Performance Anxiety in Women 

Have you ever got really anxious about trying to reach orgasm? Or every really focused on a specific body part rather than being focused on the experience?  In this episode Erika addresses the issues that are unique to women and sexual performance and ways to combat it.   

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48. Oral sex with Lorals

Hate dental dams?  Erika talks with Melanie Cristol Founder and CEO about their super cool product Lorals.  It is disposable underwear that is super thin that supports the wearer to gain pleasure and reduce stress.  This was a super fun conversation about closing the orgasm gap! 

 

Check them out here: 

 

Insta: @mylorals 

https://mylorals.com/  

melanie@mylorals.com  

 

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47. Infertility and Sex

The process of creating life is not always an easy one.  Erika talks with Ariel Shumaker-Hammond Clinical Therapist and Photographer about the infertility journey and how it impacts couples and their intimate lives.   

Check out Ariel and some of the resources she suggested in the episode: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ariel-m-shumaker-hammond-asheville-nc/243918 

arielshumakerphotography.com 

facebook/ashevillephoto or arielshumakerphoto on instagram 

 

Links for more information on therapy and infertility: 

resolve.org 

psychologytoday.com 

ARSM which is at reproductivefacts.org 

 

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46. Avoiding Your Emotional Sh*t and how it Impacts Your Sex Life

Just you and me for this episode.  I want to talk about how avoiding your emotional shit, your baggage, the problems from your past, whatever you would like to call it impacts your sexual life.  Your whole self is important, and we try and silo ourselves into compartments.  Every piece of us is impacted when we are not identifying how we feel about ourselves. 

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45. Finding Your Feminine Fire with Amanda Testa 

Erika talks with Amanda Testa a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach who specializes in helping folks get in touch with their sexuality and femininity. They get down to business about how getting in touch with your sexuality can change your perspective and can offer you healing. Check out her podcast Find Your Feminine Fire and her Facebook group. 

Find Amanda here: 

https://www.amandatesta.com/  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/FindYourFeminineFire/

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