28. Relationships, sex, & Men with Robert Kandell

In this episode Erika talks with Robert Kandell, about relationships and how communication effects intimacy.  More specifically how men can experience frustration in cultural messages about feelings and how they “should” express them. His book Unhidden comes out December 6th! 

 

Check out Robert’s work here: 

https://robertkandell.com/  


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27. Virginity with Dr. Jaime Kennedy

In this episode Erika talks with a longtime friend Jaime Kennedy, Ph.D about her research on virginity and how historically virginity has been used as a tool.  Dr. Jaime brings wonderful information about how virginity or purity has historically been used as a propaganda tool.  Listen to this week’s episode to find out how! 

You can find Dr. Jaime in these places: 

www.houghluck.com  

www.abd2phd.com  

 

See examples of the WWII VD posters here: 

WWII VD Posters

Visual Culture and Public Health Posters

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26. Sexual Assault Part 1

In this episode Erika talks about sexual assault and where the angry posts on social media are coming from.  Erika also references research on rates of false accusations of sexual assault.   The information may surprise you.    

Research article:  

Lisak, D., Gardinier, L., Nicksa, S. C., & Cote, A. M. (2010). False Allegations of Sexual Assault: An Analysis of Ten Years of Reported Cases. Violence Against Women, 16(12), 1318-1334. doi:10.1177/1077801210387747

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25. Billy Procida, Desire, and putting yourself out there

IErika interviewed comedian Billy Procida about his podcast the Manwhore Podcast.  Billy shared information about his most recent episode that featured his trip to Desire Resorts.  See why Erika said listening to his episode was like ESPN after dark. 

 

If you are interested in Desire resorts check out Billy’s link: 

manwhorepod.com/desire  

You can also find him on all the socials, my favorite is instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/thebillyprocida/  

You can also find his podcast the Manwhore Podcast anywhere you get your podcasts and his website is: www.manwhorepod.com  

 

 


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24. STIs & STDs and how to talk about them

In this episode Erika talks about STIs and how to talk to our future and past partners about them.  We often battle fear and shame around sex generally and especially around STIs.  Erika teaches you to be able to talk about an STI in a real non-scary way.   

Websites referenced:  
https://www.cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/fact_sheets.htm   
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships_sexual_health/when_where_and_why_telling_your_partner_you_have_an_sti  

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

If you struggle with shame about your body, your sexuality, or need to process your personal life, I offer 1-on-1 Therapy. Click the button to the right for more info.

 

23. When Your Kids Find Your Sex Toys

In this episode of Sex Talk with Erika Miley, Erika talks about confronts shame around your kids finding out you are a sexual person. Erika offers some tips on how to have these conversations and options to hide those sexual items.  

Article referenced in episode:  
https://www.kinkly.com/creative-ways-to-store-and-hide-your-sex-toys-and-still-be-able-to-find-them/2/17006    

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

If you struggle with shame about your body, your sexuality, or need to process your personal life, I offer 1-on-1 Therapy. Click the button to the right for more info.

 

22. Sex and Negative Beliefs

This week Erika talks about how the negative beliefs about ourselves and our bodies impact our connection to others.  
3 ways to tackle those beliefs:  

  1. Acceptance in the here and now

  2. Express the feelings attached to the unworthiness 

  3. Absurdity, use something that makes you laugh and connect that those beliefs. 

 

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

If you struggle with shame about your body, your sexuality, or need to process your personal life, I offer 1-on-1 Therapy. Click the button to the right for more info.

 

21. Sex and the Brain

In this episode Erika talks about how the impact of sex on the brain  and its benefits.  A variety of chemicals are associated with positive outcomes in the brain.  All of the studies are linked here in the show notes.   

Studies referenced: 
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763412000565   
http://www.digitaljournal.com/article/329185  

 

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

If you struggle with shame about your body, your sexuality, or need to process your personal life, I offer 1-on-1 Therapy. Click the button to the right for more info.

 

20. The Pussy Party and Sexual Shame and our Words 

In this episode of Sex Talk with Erika Miley,  Erika talks with Madam President from the Pussy Party Podcast.  We talk about the limitations and shame that comes with using words that describe female sex organs as something weak.  We also talk about embracing your sexual self.    

You can find the Pussy Party Podcast here:  
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-pussy-party-podcast/id1364468044?mt=2   
https://www.facebook.com/pwussypartypodcast/   

and my favorite:  
https://www.instagram.com/pwussypartypodcast/   

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

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19. Social media, dating apps, and DMs

I wanted to do this episode for several reasons: 

  1. I think knowledge is power. Yes, very School House Rock, but I think if you know better you can do better.

  2. My own experiences have weirded me out, and my friends and family who I have talk to about this express similar sentiments.

  3. My experience with working with people around difficult sexual problems including sexual entitlements.

  4. What is sexual entitlement and how does it fit into this conversation?


Friends descriptions of their experiences.
How this actually feels vs. the intended message.
So... what's the conclusion of this? If you need help figuring out how to begin a relationship or social interactions with others, reach out for help!!! For instance, rather than saying in a DM, "Hey beautiful", then sending them a dick pic, you could say "Hey, I saw your profile and I saw you like ___. I like ___ too. What is your favorite thing about ___. This type of communication will typically get you father than commenting on our bodies. Just like with catcalling, it does not make us feel flattered, it makes us feel afraid. 

 

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If you want more info look for me live on IG TV after the episode to chat further about this and other topics on Fridays! 

 

If you struggle with shame about your body, your sexuality, or need to process your personal life, I offer 1-on-1 Therapy. Click the button to the right for more info.